It's Monday and time to set the tone for our week. Since childhood, we have been conditioned to shift our mindset on Monday from the weekend back to the school week. Regardless of our careers, that trigger point remains with us.Tomorrow, I'm competing in a regional poker tournament, and today could have been stressful for me. I had a choice when I got up this morning, whether to concern myself with my massive to-do list, or take each moment as it came.During the day, I had a number of opportunities to practice my MindShift exercises when I realized I was re-acting rather than acting. I know if I allow myself to stay in that re-acting do-loop, I will get less done, be unfair to my family, and be ill prepared for tomorrow's event.
I've been practicing this Monday Mindset Moment all day:Activate your energetic radar so that you recognize when a negative thought slips into your mind. Once the radar goes off and you realize you are in that negative place, do three things:
- Forgive yourself for having that thought in the first place.
- In your mind's eye, step back and disconnect from that thought.
- Physically turn your body 90 degrees to the right and ask yourself, "Where would I rather be?"
The act of forgiving yourself is very powerful; you will gain perspective as you stop fueling the flame; and the physical movement of turning your body helps shift your mindset.
Our mindset is a habit.
Take a moment. Get quiet and ask yourself: “Where would I rather be?”
Until next time, remember my mindset motto: Play the cards life deals you as if you've already won.
Donna Blevins
Poker MindSet Coach
Poker MindSet Coach
I love the physical turn! It's always helpful to have that physical component to really anchor the changes you are making.
Thank you Pam! It’s amazing how a simple physical motion can speed up our mindshift process.
I love this one, Donna! It's short, sweet and effective. 🙂
Thank you Jo! I use it every day.
I appreciate the forgiveness….often times someone will point out to me…..you beat 85 players instead I will say I didn't win. So I think forgiveness for not winning and acknowledging that I played good poker and that I will win.
thanks
k
You’re welcome, K. For years, I overlooked the self-forgiveness part of the process. Once I added it into the mix, my world changed.
Well, you just described what has been happening to me for the last couple of days. Multiple times I have waited for a decent hand with every thing going my way and boom. An opponent has drawn out on me.They come over the top with a lg raise and that little voice tells you you're beat,t Stubbornly I refused to listen and have paid the price. I usually can roll with punches prety well but this was starting to get to me. I'm going to call this prcedure you have suggested "the tear yourself away from the tilt technique", I'll apply it today if needed. Thanks Sue I'll let you know what happens.
Sharon, I certainly understand! I’m very stubborn and my ego kept getting in my way. Thank you for the name suggestion!
donna, love this technique. i believe our thoughts and a physical action connects mind and body. what is our mind without are body, not much. this symbiotic relationship get us where we want to go and that makes life good. thanks donna for a new exercise to help us cope.
You are welcome, Cat! Our body mind connection is powerful. The more we engage our body with a mindshift exercise, the more effective it is.