Poker Coach Says Goodbye to Best Friend

Poker coaching has brought people into our lives from around the world that have become much more than coaching clients. They have become dear friends, and they continue to enrich our lives.
As a poker coach, I am a reflection of the people I coach. They make me a better poker coach. For that, I am profoundly grateful.
Yesterday afternoon from Florida, we connected by way of a webinar platform in a private session with three of our coaching clients. One was in California; one was in Virginia; the other was in Australia.
During the poker-coaching strategy session, I was talking about how emotions are our biggest enemy at the poker table. I mentioned that I personally use one technique we teach to detach from emotions in my daily life as well as at the poker table.
 
When you find yourself on tilt and overwhelmed with emotions in life or at the poker table, mentally take half a step back and look at what you are feeling and say, "Hmmm. Isn't that interesting."
The mere act of becoming an observer short circuits the energy to the emotions and literally changes it. Since energy follows thought, when you take the split second to disengage, you effectively remove the energy that is feeding the emotions.
Even tho' it may not produce instant and complete relief, the power those emotions have over you begins to diminish. I suspect our belief system is one of the factors that cause the time delay… however, I'll leave that for another day.

Two days ago, I found myself in the throws of depression when I realized that we had to make that hardest of all decisions of letting go of our last Jack Russell Terrier, Katrina. She is nearing 18 and has been so much more than just a dog in my life. She has been like a daughter to me, and my best friend.
Katrina is in great pain, and her spirit is wise. She will not eat or even drink water. I carry her outside every few hours and steady her as I gently stand her up. My biggest regret is that this is Saturday. The vet is closed until Monday.
If you are an animal lover, you will get it. If not, I am sorry for what you have missed in your life.
After the poker-coaching session yesterday, Peter from Australia sent the following poem written by Karen Clouston. I have been repeating, "Hmmm… Isn't that interesting," as I read and re-read it and emotions flood over me:
You're giving me a special gift,
So sorrowfully endowed,
And through these last few cherished days,
Your courage makes me proud.
 
But really, love is knowing
When your best friend is in pain,
And understanding earthly acts
Will only be in vain.

So looking deep into your eyes,
Beyond, into your soul,
I see in you the magic, that will
Once more make me whole.

The strength that you possess,
Is why I look to you today,
To do this thing that must be done,
For it's the only way.

That strength is why I've followed you,
And chose you as my friend,
And why I've loved you all these years...
My partner 'til the end.

Please, understand just what this gift,
You're giving, means to me,
It gives me back the strength I've lost,
And all my dignity.

You take a stand on my behalf,
For that is what friends do.
And know that what you do is right,
For I believe it too.

So one last time, I breathe your scent,
And through your hand I feel,
The courage that's within you,
To now grant me this appeal.

Cut the leash that holds me here,
Dear friend, and let me run,
Once more a strong and steady dog,
My pain and struggle done.

And don't despair my passing,
For I won't be far away,
Forever here, within your heart,
And memory I'll stay.

I'll be there watching over you,
Your ever faithful friend,
And in your memories I'll run,
...a young dog once again.

Donna Blevins
Poker Mindset Coach

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4 Responses to Poker Coach Says Goodbye to Best Friend

  1. Chuck JohnsonNo Gravatar November 28, 2010 at 4:53 pm #

    Our precious pets are truly a blessing and always adored. Thanks for sharing this beautiful poem as well. Peace always!

    • Donna BlevinsNo Gravatar November 30, 2010 at 10:18 am #

      Chuck, thank you! I am also convinced that Katrina helped with my husband’s healing after having a lung removed in 2008. The stories we have about her and our other four-legged family members are amazing.

  2. Caryn PercifieldNo Gravatar January 12, 2011 at 4:38 am #

    I adore the poem Peter sent. He is a wonderful man.

    • Donna BlevinsNo Gravatar January 12, 2011 at 11:19 am #

      Yes, Peter is wonderful. Even tho’ it took a while for us to appreciate the poem. It touched our pain.

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